Why Do We Change When We Hit Rock Bottom?

Why Do We Change When We Hit Rock Bottom?


On this blog, we know what it’s like to hit rock bottom. It’s that point at which we either do or die. We either have to face up to our problems or be forever lost to them.

When we look back on our worst times, they often turn out to be flashpoints. Maintaining the status quo is just so painful that we’re forced to change. We’re forced to grow and to get stronger. And ultimately, when we reflect on those experiences, we are glad that they happened. They are what got us to where we are today.

Hitting rock bottom can be a good thing. We suddenly realize where we have been going wrong. We no longer ignore our disempowering patterns of behavior. Instead, we face our pain, head on, no matter
what it is.

If your damaging pattern of behavior was drugs or alcohol, you know how this situation can feel. Leaving a dependency behind can seem terrifying. After all, our most destructive behaviors are almost always an attempt to mask pain. But facing our pain is something that has to happen. One day it becomes clear that it is worse to carry on with what we’re doing than to stop it.
Suddenly, you reach out to others for help. You find that there are many people out there, willing and ready to help you get your life back on track. There are counselors, like at There are friends and family, and there are church groups and coworkers.

In some ways, hitting rock bottom can be the best things to ever happen to you. When you’re forced to confront your demons, you learn a lot about yourself. You start to understand why you’re in the situation you’re in. And you begin to piece together the history that got you to the point you are today. Often you’ll find yourself reevaluating why you ever decided to get into the relationships that you did. What was it that attracted you to certain people and personality types, for instance? And why were you so easily led down the primrose path to destruction?

Answering those questions then helps to build up an immunity against relapsing in the future. You quickly learn what your weaknesses are and build your life around managing them. For instance, if you had a problem with alcohol in the past, you might not socialize in bars anymore. Instead, you might have people over to your place for BBQs or book clubs. Likewise, if you hit rock bottom because of violent people in your life, you stay away from those who display the warning signs. The first sign of trouble and you’re gone.

Hitting rock bottom ends your reliance on outside factors to buoy your mood says You either have to find a sense of happiness within, or not find it at all. Substances, alcohol, and toxic relationships can’t sustainably mask deeper feelings of anxiety or inadequacy. People who make it through their darkest hours are the people who find the strength to confront their biggest issues. And that is ultimately how they change.

Naomi Isted
Editor in Chief, Naomi Isted is known as The Ultimate Lifestylist to her readers and viewers. She is a TV Presenter and Columnist. Ranked in the Top 100 LFW Social Media Influencers AW14 & SS15, Brand Ambassador for Pears Soap UK. Her Celebrity beauty TV Series currently airs to 27million homes on Physique TV in UAE, previously on Wedding TV in the UK. She brings fashion and beauty advice to her readers and viewers on a daily basis. She is Fashion and Beauty Columnist for Herald Scotland and has a Fashion and Beauty Bridal Blog for HELLO. She can usually be found attending celebrity fashion and beauty events in and around London and sharing the latest fashion and beauty trends with her readers.

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