Notes On Happiness And How To Achieve It

Notes On Happiness And How To Achieve It

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Have you ever thought that there must be more to life than this? More than the daily toil and just getting by? If so, you’re certainly not alone. Increasing numbers of therapists are reporting clients seeking their services because they feel that they should be happier.

Unfortunately, there’s no magical formula to happiness, and one approach doesn’t necessarily fit everyone. However, there are a few tried and tested techniques you can try to get to the root of the problem.

  1. Start With Some Questions

Begin by asking yourself a few simple questions.

  • Are you happy at this moment in time?
  • What percentage of the time do you feel happy?
  • What does happiness mean to you? This will vary drastically from person to person.
  • What conditions would need to be in place so you can feel happy?

Don’t just run through the answers in your head. Write them down or journal them. It’s surprising what this can throw up. If you’re having difficulty with this, try the miracle question. This is sometimes used by therapists as a way of understanding thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Ask yourself this. If you could wake up tomorrow morning and by some miracle, all of your problems had disappeared, what would that look like? Ask yourself how it would feel and what would be different in your life. Often the responses are surprising, and you may find that your wishes and dreams are attainable goals.

  1. Quieten Your Inner Critic

Often we are our own worst enemies. Instead of celebrating the small victories and those things we do well, we dwell on the things that don’t go according to plan. We berate ourselves for all the things we haven’t accomplished or completed, rather than feeling proud of how far we’ve come.

Unfortunately, a loud and persistent inner critic can make us feel inadequate, unfulfilled and can be a source of anxiety and depression. There are several ways to silence that critical voice:

  • Imagine that voice is a third person. How would you answer their criticism?
  • Write down the good things you have done in your life; your achievements, accomplishments and the little victories
  • Keep a gratitude diary and write down things you’re grateful for each day
  • Recognise the conditions and triggers that allow the critical voice to become louder
  • Accept yourself for who you are and be comfortable in your own skin
  • Soothe your mind using meditation or yoga
  1. Focus On Experiences Rather Than Things

Many people experience pressure in their lives through needing to keep up with other people. For example, having the right clothes and reading the right books, etc. This then becomes clutter and increases our anxiety.

Forget what everyone else is doing and focus on yourself. Don’t make impulse purchases. Concentrate on experiences, rather than objects. For example, spending time with your family, holidays, eating out, etc. This is more fulfilling than hoarding ‘things’. And it needn’t be expensive, especially if you look for discount codes and coupons.

Everyone is different and has their own needs and desires. Find what is important to you. Find that thing that fires your passion and makes you want to get out of bed in the morning. And then do it, and do lots of it.



Naomi Isted
Editor in Chief, Naomi Isted is known as The Ultimate Lifestylist to her readers and viewers. She is a TV Presenter and Columnist. Ranked in the Top 100 LFW Social Media Influencers AW14 & SS15, Brand Ambassador for Pears Soap UK. Her Celebrity beauty TV Series currently airs to 27million homes on Physique TV in UAE, previously on Wedding TV in the UK. She brings fashion and beauty advice to her readers and viewers on a daily basis. She is Fashion and Beauty Columnist for Herald Scotland and has a Fashion and Beauty Bridal Blog for HELLO. She can usually be found attending celebrity fashion and beauty events in and around London and sharing the latest fashion and beauty trends with her readers.

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