How To Make Life Changing Decisions
There will come a time in your life, perhaps even many times, when you need to make an important, life changing decision. The fact that we do something similar to this many times during the day is not something we usually take into account, even if it is true. These decisions, such as what to have breakfast or whether to take the bus or drive somewhere instead, don’t register with us as life-changing, even though they very well could be.
Remember: every decision we ever make shapes who we are, where we are, and what we are doing. It is something that would overwhelm most people, which is why we most often only focus on the big decisions in life rather than the ones we didn’t even realize we were making. If you find that you have trouble making these decisions, hopefully, this article will help you in the future.
See The Power
The first thing to realize when it comes to making a decision that could change your life, whether it is something huge such as moving to another country, or something seemingly smaller like deciding to go to Perfect Lens World and wear contact lenses instead of eyeglasses, is that each decision is powerful. Whatever you decide to do will have its ownchain of events that follow on afterward, and that chain can be either good or bad.
Something else that is important to remember, though, is that you have the power when it comes to those decisions. By focusing on the here and now and then thinking carefully about the potential for what might come next, you will find that making a decision becomes easier. You will see exactly where one decision will lead, and you will know which route to go down.
Trust Your Instincts
Millennia ago, the human race lived by its instincts alone. Whatever decision had to be made, instinct took over; nothing even had to be thought about. As time has gone on, we have made things a lot more difficult for ourselves because we are always trying to think things through, and that can lead to fear and indecision. We have literally over-thought things!
If you find that this has happened to you, it is best to go back to the beginning and start again. Listen to what your instincts are telling you and ‘go with your gut.’One option will feel right compared to the other, even if both seem like good choices. Pick the one that your instincts and subconscious are pointing you towards and trust that you have done the right thing.
Making a decision and then carrying the decision out are two entirely different things, so it is crucial that you actually go through with whatever it was you chose to do. If you don’t perform any kind of action, you may as well not have made the decision in the first place because it won’t count for anything. You could say there are always two parts to a decision; the first is making it, and the second is doing it. One without the other just won’t work.
If you are truly ready and willing to make changes in your life, even in small ways, then you need to be willing to go through with the actions that will get you where you want and need to be. It can be scary, and it very likely will be uncomfortable for a little while, but remember why you made the decision in the first place and keep going.
Speak To People
If you tell other people about the decisions you have made, you are more likely to follow through with them. Thisis because you will feel a moral obligation to do as you said. After all, you don’t want people to think you were lying. Equally, you will have created certain expectations within the people you have told, and you won’t want to disappoint them. If you did, you would feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. It would be far better to carry out your plans and prove to them that you can go through with something. This is especially true if those people disbelieved that you would be able to do what you promised.
Learn From The Past
If you are trulyunable to carry out your decision, then use that inability to help you in the future. The next time you need to make a decision or follow through with one, think back to the time you were unable to and try to analyze what the problem was. Once you know this, you can work hard to avoid that in the future. It will make decision making much easier.
Ask yourself questions about what happened. Why did you make the decision you did, and what was good about it? What might it have led to? Why did you not do anything about it? Fear is the most likely reason why nothing was done, and it is this fear that makes it so easy to stay still and not move forward in life. If you did make a decision and it didn’t turn out the way you wanted, you should analyze this as well. Learning from the past is how we do better in the future.
Having a flexible approach is also a useful way to look at decision making. Just because you have made a decision,it doesn’t mean you can’t go back and start again if it doesn’t work out. Bearing this in mind will help you to be less scared of anything you decide to do, and will ensure that not only is a decision made, but the action is taken to back it up too.
One of the most important things to remember when making decisions is that even if they are going to change your life completely, you should still be able to have fun with them. When you make it fun, it becomes a game where you can spot the opportunities and quickly act on them. You’ll be more confident in yourself and your decision-makingskills, and soon enough you will become so proficient at noticing when something needs to change you won’t even realize you are making such big decisions anymore.