10 Tips to Make Your Wedding Day Unforgettable
While you and your significant may be grinning from ear-to-ear, the truth is, weddings can be stressful.
There are a number of questions running through your head. How many guests do you invite? What should your bridesmaids wear? Should you go DIY with the centerpieces?
A survey polling 16,000 US brides indicated that the average engagement was around 14 months. More or less, you have 14 months to answer these questions, let alone pull together a memorable wedding. That being said, how could you not be stressed?
Luckily, you don’t have to be; use these tips and tricks so your wedding day is memorable and special, minus the (unnecessary) stress.
1. Keep in Contact with Your Wedding Planner
Remember, your wedding planner is working for you, pulling strings and bearing the brunt of the stress so that you can relax and enjoy your big day. Remember, it is not a burden to text or email him/her…even if it is coming down to the last few days.
If you are unsure about your wedding dress and are considering last-minute alterations, contact your wedding planner. Being that they’re in the industry, you can bet they know a seamstress or two who can do the alterations ASAP.
As for Those Unexpected Problems… What if It Rains?
Again, go to your wedding planner. If it does start to drizzle (or pour) on your wedding day, talk with your wedding planner about a potential change of venue. Your wedding planner will coordinate with the site manager to see if he/she has a Plan B relocation venue that is an hour or less away.
If not, a quick trip to the local home goods store for umbrellas is an option (or, if the weather forecast estimate a high percentage of rain on your big day, consider purchasing umbrellas in advance, just in case.)
2. Talk with Your DJ Beforehand
Don’t just tell him/her your wedding song. Give him/her specific song requests; you could even give him/her a playlist of some of the songs you want played at your wedding.
Needless to say, you don’t want to encroach on his/her job. But providing some specific requests can go a long way.
Ask yourself these questions to narrow down your song selection:
- Do you prefer the traditional wedding song playlist (i.e. YMCA, September, etc.)?
- What music do you enjoy?
- What music does your significant other enjoy?
- What are songs your guests will like and can dance to?
- How many slow songs would you want?
3. Go DIY?
DIY weddings are becoming more popular. While you may not want your entire wedding to be DIY, what about the centerpieces or bridesmaid gifts?
Going DIY could create some wiggle room in your budget, let alone allow you not to go over budget—which is not uncommon to do.
Look on social media for DIY ideas or talk with your wedding planner and maid of honor for DIY ideas. If you are busy with wedding plans (on top of the day-to-day ups and downs), reach out to your maid of honor to see if she’d be willing to make the centerpieces or guest gifts.
(As for DIY makeup and nails, perhaps doing your own bridal makeup and using a gel nail polish may work.)
4. Know Dietary Needs in Advance
In 2014, the average number of wedding guests was 136. Give or take, you probably have a guest count around that number. And, chances are, not everyone attending your wedding will have the same dietary needs.
Some may be vegetarian or vegan, while others have specific allergies or, due to health reasons, cannot eat high-sugar, high-cholesterol foods.
While you may not be able to appease everyone’s dietary needs, including a question in the weddings invites — (i.e. what are your dietary needs? Do you prefer vegetarian/vegan/gluten-free menu options?) — doesn’t hurt.
Also, perhaps include the ingredients on the menu. That way, guests can choose what to eat and what to pass on.
5. Take Dance Lessons…Online
You and your partner want to be confident on the dance floor. Dance classes can run in the hundreds. Which is why online dance lessons are a possibility.
That or, worst case, going with the box step are options worth considering to loosen pocket strings.
Nowadays, couples are turning to writing their own vows. If this is your choice, you may want to start working on them (at least) a month out from your big day.
Do a first draft where you let yourself write—uncensored. From there, do multiple editing sessions throughout the weeks leading up to your wedding day. Feel free to get another’s opinion but remember, you know your partner best.
7. Planning Your Budget is #1 Priority
In 2014, nearly half of couples went over budget when wedding planning. With the average wedding cost being around $31,213 (in 2014), vendors get expensive…fast.
To keep within budget, you first have to create one. Be realistic, and give yourself some wiggle room. Make sure you do this before you start booking vendors so you aren’t in an uncomfortable financial position.
8. Get Creative with Your Registry
Traditionally, you registered with only one retailer; now, things have changed. You can register with multiple retailers and even create customizable funds—such as honeymoon, wedding, first home—for friends and family to contribute to. (Learn more info.) Doing this can alleviate stress and allow you to have the personalized registry you want.
9. Bridesmaid Dresses Depend on the Season
If your wedding is in a warmer climate during the spring and summer seasons, consider short bridesmaid dress for a fun look. If your wedding is during the fall and winter months, longer dresses may be the way to go.
Besides temperature, consider the theme, if the venue is inside or outside, and the bridesmaids’ styles.
10. Ask for Help
Weddings can get stressful—fast. Which is why you don’t have to bear the brunt; don’t be afraid to delegate and ask for help when you need it. Your friends and family will jump at the chance to help you and show that they care.
Weddings should be enjoyable. If there’s anything to take away from this article, planning ahead never hurts. What other wedding tips do you have? Leave a comment.